A message from the 'Not-So-Perfect' Pageant Queen

April 15, 2018

A message from the incredibly strong Angelica Beiter about competing in her first ever beauty pageant and coming home with the crown.

 

How? She was her authentic self. She wasn't ashamed of any of her battles, and faced them head on with grace and beauty. 

 

We admire you, Angelica. Read her message below.

 

 

When you think of a queen, what comes to mind? An image of sheer perfection?

A woman who is superior to struggle?

 

We live in a world where we are encouraged to hide our differences to achieve this superior status. Society has created a stigma that we must all strive for perfection, and anything that is different than that is something to be ashamed of.

 

And this is the exact stigma I wanted to destroy: By being the ‘not-so-perfect’ pageant queen.

 

My senior year of high school, which is supposed to be filled with some of the most exciting times of our teenage lives, was filled with hospital rooms and doctors visits. My entire life I have struggled with “odd” medical issues, but never this severe. Doctor after doctor could not figure out why I was so ill, and I in turn continued to miss out on so many memories.

The second half of my senior year I was home schooled, and it took 7 months, 2 surgeries and countless doctors to finally give me a diagnosis. At this point, I couldn't decide if I should be excited or devastated. I finally knew what I was dealing with and we could try and manage it, but I also was just handed a lifelong battle.

 

was diagnosed with a life threatening chronic illness called Hereditary Angioedema. It

only affects every about 1 in 50,000 which results in only about 4,000 cases in the United States. Trying to adapt to a life filled with new treatments, medications and symptoms felt

like quicksand. Not only was I facing these new obstacles, I was weeks away from

starting my college career at a new school. I let these struggles overwhelm me, and I

started to absolutely hate the cards I had been dealt.

 

Fast forward a couple months, I had been slowly finding what worked best to

balance all aspects of my new life but when people heard my story, they were pitying

me. These reactions made me embarrassed to even tell others, because I thought it was something I needed to be ashamed about. On a daily basis, when people hear a

sad story about someone facing struggles, their immediate response is “I’m so sorry” or

“That’s awful”. Although we feel bad about their situation, as someone who deals with

these comments, they only make use feel more ashamed and unaccepted. We should

be encouraging people to be proud of what makes them unique, instead of hiding it.

There needed to be a change, and I knew the only way that was going to happen was if

I was the one to do it.

 

I realized no matter how much I despised my diagnosis, it wasn't going to change

anything. If I was given this obstacle, I knew it I needed to use it for good, and make a

difference in this world. My illness used to be something that made me feel excluded, but now I know its something unique that I can use as a tool to educate others about

chronic illnesses. At this point, I knew I needed to use my story to educate the

community, but I didn't even know where to start.

 

The Niagara County Peach Queen program that is sponsored by the Lewiston

Kiwanis Club has been around for decades, encouraging young women to advocate for

something the believe in and volunteer in the community. By chance, I had happened to

see the application online, and knew that it was the perfect opportunity to start

educating the community about chronic illnesses. I honestly didn't think I even had a

chance at winning, but I knew I could use the opportunity leading up to the actual

competition to advocate.

 

In order to be crowned, there is a one-on-one interview with the judging panel, an

onstage speaking portion about the topic you are advocating for, and a final randomized

question response. I knew these were all opportunities to spread awareness and

educate the community. Prior to the competition, the group of contestants do volunteer

work in the community alongside of the Kiwanis Club. During this time, I formed so

many new relationships and had the opportunity to tell my story, that I knew even if I

didn't win, I had already started to make a difference.

 

I am so glad that I not only had this opportunity, but I also was crowned Peach Queen and had a full year to advocate and be active in the community. Throughout the year I held many fundraisers, visited hospitals and volunteered in the community to try and reach as many people as I could.

 

I find it very important to teach other young adults like myself that we are much

more than a diagnosis. Our illnesses do not define us, they are merely a small portion of

what we have to offer as people. Although achieving a goal with a chronic illness comes

with many more obstacles and may take a little longer, anything is achievable when you

set your mind to it. I have personally used this drive to not only run for Peach Queen,

but in many other aspects of my life such as college.

 

Knowing that something is going to be a challenge can often be intimidating, but it also results in a much greater reward when your cross the finish line. Because these goals can sometimes come with more obstacles, it’s important the surrounding community is supportive. Instead of pitying someone or being uncomfortable with people who are different, we must accept that differences are a good thing.

 

I am so thankful I had the opportunity to be the 2016-17 Niagara County Peach

Queen, and prove that we do not need to be perfect to be successful or important. I

hope my time as queen helped others in my position see that not only is it okay to be

proud of who you are, but also our goals are still achievable with a little extra work. After

seeing the difference I made in the community, it has pushed me to continue my

journey, and I am now a proud member of the Lewiston Kiwanis Club, where I plan to continue my journey.

 

I not only wore my crown with pride, but also my illness.

 

believe that is what made me the ‘not-so-perfect’ queen! 

 

So this goes out to anyone that is ashamed of who they are: you were given this

life for a reason, so use it to make a difference.

 

Embrace the fact that it’s fine TO BE not-so-perfect!

 

 

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